Gay Friendly Personal Training and Health & Well-being Coaching
Gay Friendly Personal Trainer in North London
Being gay shaped my relationship with health, fitness and well-being. At times not being 'out' made me feel very low - probably depressed, and bought lots of feelings of shame. To be honest, it would be tricky to put across here, I'm not the most gifted writer though I can be almost certain that an LGBT reader or anyone who feels at times 'on the outside' would have a level of understanding here.
I didn't enjoy sport, I did not feel comfortable in a gym and I wasn't very good at any of the team games that dominated school playground or PE sessions. Thankfully, in that era I was pretty tall and clumsy that I was favoured by my PE teacher, who told me that I reminded him of himself when he was at school.
A healthy relationship with health and fitness was pretty non-existent that I'm surprised I'm a Personal Trainer. Of course, as I grew older and I could more freely decide what I was doing, where I was and who I spent my time with, I developed a new relationship with health and fitness.
I started to enjoy fitness I could do alone such as swimming and jogging. I also enjoyed the gym. This is when my relationship with health and fitness shifted again, with the influence of identifying as gay having its effect. Previously I rejected team sports, 'alpha male' spaces and rowdy gyms. More recently I embraced the gym as I wanted to look more muscular and feel more validated - gay culture and expectations of what it is to be a gay man taking its toll.
Though I've never been hugely muscled, my body shape being dictated by the fashions - lean and slim or bulky and muscled, I would always feel like I wasn't quite there - not toned enough, big enough or athletic enough. My relationship with health and fitness was all about the physical, it felt like I was chasing my tail, and never being where I wanted to be. Though aspiring for more can be healthy in some situations, this wasn't one of those times.
Now, in the present time, I have a much healthier relationship to my health and fitness and well-being. Now I want to move just enough, eat intuitively a healthy and balanced plant based diet and whereas I'm no Adonis, I feel happier in my own skin than ever before.
I exercise because I feel great for it, in my body and mind. I'm also happy with how I look and how my energy levels are. I also want this experience for my clients. For them to not get too hooked on what the scales say or simply on how well they fill their t-shirts. I want people to enjoy moving (as much as possible), to enjoy their food and enjoy great energy levels - minus feelings of guilt around food and exercise and minus feelings of not being enough.
Though I wouldn't have imagined I'd be a personal trainer (and a good one too, I'm told) once I got started in this career path, I knew this was the the career choice for me and it's felt like a very natural path. It's a perfect opportunity for me to support others, including many in the gay and LBT community, and others, who experienced a strained relationship with their health and fitness journey, by feeling that that world didn't belong to them.
I take pride in seeing clients grow in confidence and self-esteem. When I see my clients using the squat rack or benching so naturally, when not long before they wouldn't have dared step into this free weight area of the gym, it's very satisfying.
Even though its a cliché, my passion is with helping others. My experience undertaking charity work offering health and fitness classes and advice to people in the gay and LBT community who could not easily access or afford this and also volunteering for LGBT+ Switchboard helpline allowed me further opportunity to support others. In these charity roles I could play an active role in offering physical health and fitness support as well as offer a listening ear and supporting people to understand their options and take a step forward.
Some gay people often meet more barriers than the general population to being healthy and active and this is why I aim to encourage LGBT people back towards bringing health and fitness practices into their lives.
These stats speak for themselves and I'm personally not too surprised by them; '55% of LGBT men were not active enough to maintain good health, compared to 33% of men in the general population' find out more & 'Lesbian, gay and bisexual older adults are more likely than heterosexuals to suffer chronic health conditions' find out more.
Gay or straight, whatever your age, fitness level, size, body shape, or training experience - even if you're a total beginner and never taken a step inside a gym.. better health, fitness and well-being is possible, you deserve it and you can start your journey now. I would love to support you.